Start Your Journey to Happiness and Self Esteem
Determine which area of your life you want to work on and begin today!
Be "Positive" when deciding what you want to achieve. Don't tell yourself you can't
do it. When you talk to yourself use positive affirmations and write them down.
Keep them short and very specific.
Believe in yourself and your goals. Be persistent and close out your inner voice
from negative remarks.
Set aside a specific time each day to meditate, and visualize your goals and
achievements. This will help you to set a pattern of daily affirmations to reach your
goals.
Avoid the word "should". I should have done this, I should have done that. This will
distract you from identifying and fulfilling your own needs. Find out what you are
good at and go for it!
Have respect for yourself. List 50 things about yourself you respect. Think about
things you have achieved in your life and compliments people have given you. Keep
going until the list is finished.
Recognize and take care of your own needs first. Determine what will fulfill you and
give you a deeper sense of achievement and build your sense of self-worth.
Have a Purpose: Be specific when you state your goals. Visualize yourself achieving
your goals and how it makes you feel. Determine a time frame to achieve each goal
and the steps needed to achieve it. See yourself everyday being, doing and having
exactly what you want
Positive Thinking: When you feel a negative thought coming on say STOP! And
replace it with one of your positive goals you can see yourself accomplishing.
Don't take the blame because someone else is upset. If you feel that you must have
done something wrong, stop that thought immediately and realize that the other
person owns the problem and not you. You can help someone else by comforting
them when they are upset, but you are not to blame. When you spend your life
worrying about how other people feel, you lose track of how you feel. Strive for
emotional wellness with yourself and your relationships.
Check your reality; separate your fears, bad feelings and emotional reactions to
situations and whether or not there is any merit to your taking the blame or feeling
inferior. You may find that you are over reacting and can just let it go.
Don't be afraid to make decisions. Practice by starting off with small decisions and
work up to the bigger ones and you find your self confidence building everyday.
Don't let small set backs like a decision that has a bad outcome deter you. Use it as
a learning experience and go on from there.
Develop your interests or hobbies. Are you a great seamstress, dancer, writer etc.
Take lessons or join a club. Take everything one day at a time and you will find that
you can do anything you set your mind to do.
Take care of your physical appearance. Put on make-up everyday whether you are
going out or not. When you look good you feel better. Pamper yourself with some
of the treatments in this eBook to bring out your natural beauty. You will feel a new
spring in your step and more confidence to take on daily tasks.
Don't avoid problems, solve them and don't dwell on them. Face them head on and
get them out of the way as quickly as possible. Once you have solved your
problems they are gone for good, put them completely out of your mind. You will
feel a sense of accomplishment that will build your self esteem more every time
you do it
Do you have a hard time accepting compliments? It's your choice on how you take
them, use them to build your confidence and accept them graciously. Encourage
positive self talk from your inner voice.
Do volunteer work. Nothing will make you feel better than knowing you have
helped others who are less fortunate. If you can make someone else feel better
about them self it will rub off on you and you'll feel better about yourself too.
Let painful memories go! The past is just that, the past. The only thing you can
control is the present and the future. Holding on to bad memories only makes each
day harder for you to achieve your goals by weighing you down with past guilt,
anger and frustrations. Let it go!
Do the best you can and you are achieving a significant feat. If you don't give 100%
to each task you are only cheating yourself. When you start a task get excited
about it. Tell yourself you are doing a good job, and ask for encouragement when
you need it. Once you have accomplished it you will feel elated and ready to start
the next one.
Do you talk yourself into believing you can't do certain things or deal with change?
The mind is a funny thing, if it hears something repeated enough it starts to
believe it and acts on it to make it true. Your mind will not rationalize with what it
is convinced of.
Give yourself positive, encouraging statements. Repeat them constantly and your
mind will act on them. Work at feeling good about yourself and become more selfreliant.
YOU are a capable person! Don't allow those inner voices to convince you
otherwise.
Get rid of dependency, guilt, fear and worry and in their place cultivate selfreliance,
love, imagination, enthusiasm, a sense of humor and the ability to
communicate.
Don't allow anxiety, stress and depression to control you. You are better than that!
Believe in yourself and take control of your own feelings.
Do you feel responsible for the happiness of another person? If you accept that you
are responsible for other people’s problems you take away the right for them to
own it. Learning to deal with the consequences of one's behavior is part of being
an adult. Own only your own problems and you'll have more time for positive,
useful activities.
Build your confidence by picturing yourself accomplishing something you have
always wanted to do. Close your eyes and see every detail of how you would
behave, how you feel about achieving it and how others respond to it. Now put it
into action and when you achieve it you will feel elated.
Focus on your strengths. Determine what you can do instead of your limitations.
Develop new strengths and revel in the feeling of your new found self-reliance.
Keep a journal. Write down your feelings and thoughts about situations and
determine how you could make them better by looking at them in a different way.
You will learn more about yourself and how you react to certain situations so you
can stop and turn them around.
Do you call yourself stupid if you make a mistake? You're only human! Give
yourself a break. Would you call someone you loved stupid for doing the same
thing? Then why would you do it to yourself? Allow yourself to make mistakes and
then forgive and forget and get on with your life. Better yet learn to laugh at
yourself and start again with a positive attitude.
Be optimistic. When you catch yourself being a pessimist STOP! Think about all the
good points that can be made about the situation and realize that any situation can
be turned around easily to a positive one if your willing to try.
Achieve success quickly. Look for a situation in which the success rate is high. Find
a project that will challenge your abilities but not overwhelm you. When you have
accomplished it acknowledge it and enjoy the feeling of success.
Encourage yourself, your friends and family instead of criticizing. Give yourself or
others an enthusiastic "Way to Go!" Visualize a positive outcome and you will get it.
Establish goals based on what you can realistically achieve. Take it one step at a
time and encounter any problems as a learning experience and keep on going until
you reach it. Perfectionism is not necessary and invites stress and failure. Avoid it!
Use your own creative energy. Take a walk in the park or go to a museum and
really look at things and imagine them differently than you ever have before. Give
each thing you see a new name. Imagine it has a different purpose than you were
taught. Write down anything you find amusing about your new names and
descriptions and visualize new uses for them. Do this everywhere you go, you
never know what you may come up with. You may invent something new.
Motivate yourself with choices instead of fear. Look at things from a different
perspective and realize that fear is not an option. Picture yourself enjoying the
choices you make and succeeding in accomplishing them.
Take time to think about what you want to accomplish. Take a step everyday
towards meeting your goal. It doesn't matter whether you have the time or money
to do it now, by getting ready to do it and focusing on it often your mind will help
you find the means.
Rely on your own opinions of yourself and not what others think. Base your life
goals on your values and not those of others. You are the only person who can say
what is right for you!
Look for the good that can come from bad situations and get the knowledge to find
a solution. The knowledge you gain will give you a new confidence you would
otherwise not have if you hadn't gone through this situation. Use it to your
advantage.
Don't expect yourself to be perfect. You will only be setting yourself up for
disappointment. As long as you are doing YOUR best your doing fantastic! Give
yourself a reward for a job well done.
Do you allow others to make you feel bad or guilty? Only you can control your
feelings and emotions. Take back your right to feel how you want to about the
situation. Don't give anyone the power to control your God given right to feel how YOU feel. You are the master of your emotions take control of them. Take a course
on effective communication to learn more on dealing with this.
You are responsible for yourself. Your happiness or unhappiness depends on what
you tell yourself. If you convince yourself you are miserable you will be. Learn to
interpret things from a different perspective and you will get the power back to
enjoy your life regardless of what’s going on around you.
Be nice to other people. Make a list of things you like and admire about other
people and tell them. You will make their day. Making other people feel good will
brighten your day too.
Lighten-up; don't take things so seriously or personally. Try to see the humor in
everything. Your perspective will completely change if you look at things from a
serious and humorous point of view.
Take chances in your life. Unless a bad out come of the chances you take could
result in death why not go for it? Whenever you want to do something that
frightens you to start for fear of failure, ask yourself, what's the worst thing that
can happen if I don't achieve this? Will my life end? NO! Will I be exiled from
existence? NO! So, what's the worst thing that can happen? I will learn something
new, gain new insight, may accomplish it and feel wonderful. Hey! Not a bad deal.
Do it!
Kick out your inner critic. When you notice you are having doubts or judging
yourself, STOP! Tell yourself, I can do it! I am a good person and I can do anything I
put my mind to. You have the power to control your inner critic; don't allow it to
control you.
Act according to your own values. As long as you are not hurting anyone else you
can't go wrong. Make a list of your values and make them a guideline for your
goals and build from there.
Say good-bye to guilt and shame. Don't punish yourself for not getting things done
on time or accomplishing your goals. Start again and go from there. Guilt and
shame will only stop you from accomplishing what you want. You will get
discouraged and frustrated and lose track of your goals. |
