Some men cheat, in fact, to avoid any real; intimacy. Intimacy scares them, so they distance themselves from their wives by cheating on them without getting emotionally involved with their lovers. This way, they never have to trust, rely on, feel hurt or angered by, their partner.
Many men strike up an affair when they start to feel the fear and loss that comes with ageing. The fear they are not so young and invulnerable any more, they have an affair to deny the aging, and all that aging means. Not all affairs are created equal .There is the one night stand, the longer-term lover and affair that is the method of exit form he marriages.
For a man sex is an important aspect in the marriage. It’s like his oxygen. If he doesn’t get in his marriage, he goes and finds it elsewhere. Although women are no longer looked upon as mere sex objects, it is important that in a marriage the couple understands each other’s needs. Sex is a vital part here and if either partner’s needs remain unfulfilled they needs remain unfulfilled. Then they go looking for it. |
You must give up your lover. This will not be easy. You will have to grieve the loss as well as the excitement of forbidden sex.
Apologies for the hurt to your spouse. You have devastated and ruined her trust. Acknowledge that and say sorry.
Figure out why you slipped. Understand how you ended up here in the first place so you can prevent it form happening again.
Work to regain the trust. Now is the time for honest. Be open, be true and give it a lot of time. |
You wont forget but decide to forgive. To save the marriage you must work forward forgiving and move forward.
Get support form family or friends. So recruit siblings, parents and friends to be on your shoulder.
Tell him you love him. Don’t let him go off with her but tell him he has to give her up, or you will not be there.
Don’t punish him forever. You want to spend a lifetime with him but it cannot be a lifetime anger and guilt. |
